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November 2005
Lately I've been
thinking about a quote I once read from Harvey Mackay, in which he
stated "People begin to become successful the minute they decide to
be." There is more in that than first meets the eye. If we put the
emphasis on "decide," our thoughts go to things like
decision-making, evaluating choices, mental gymnastics, and taking
that first scary step which is deciding. But what if Mr. Mackay's
emphasis was on the "be?" What if he is really talking about the
"being" as fundamental in a person's success? Where would that line
of thought take us?
This goes to the core of how I view my work with coaching clients.
Sure, I coach on new techniques (such how to communicate effectively
with a team, managing direct reports, etc.) and give tips (such as
how to deal with conflict, designing a career strategy, etc.). We
often talk about your thought process and your perspective on your
work, and how you might want to think about problems or challenges
differently. But my overall goal in our work together is personal
transformation in you, my client. It is helping you to determine how
you need to be different, not just act differently or think
differently.
A successful coaching relationship is not just about ratcheting up
performance; it is a journey of transformation. The way you are
being is what will ultimately govern what is possible and not
possible in your life and in your work. My goal is to help you to
see beyond your passion (and sometimes your pride). Our work, if it
is to be truly meaningful and lasting, must raise the questions of
who you are, what you do, and why you do it. Leaving out any one of
those does not serve you.
I encourage you to think about success, and decide what that will
look like for you. Then, give some thought to the being part of the
success you desire. Who do you need to become in order to achieve
the success you have decided to have? It is my privilege to support
you in that journey of becoming.
Sharon
Sharon Keys Seal